We see other about every three months. Our ages are both 45. We are both considered attractive, work out and keep ourselves clean and well kept for each other. I believe him when he tells me there are no other women in his life, but he does masturbate on a regular basis. When he comes to see me, he is never ‘hot’ for me. I can be laying next to him naked after not seeing him for three months and he will be as limp as a noodle. Oral sex doesn’t always work either. I didn’t want to pressure him, but I did finally mention it to him and he said that for him to be really turned on, he wanted me to be in a leather mini skirt and high heels, or let him tie me up and spank me or to be in some sort of uniform, otherwise, sex would just be him struggling trying to sustain an erection. If I wanted it hot, I needed to look hot and wear the uniforms, etc. He did go to the doctor and the doctor checked him out and said he was fine and did not have erectile dysfunction. After being apart for so long, one would think he’d be pawing all over me. Not so. Sadly. What gives guys. Help!
I might add that he has asked me to marry him, but my mom became very ill and it has been put off until this spring. Also, how can he be bored when we only see each other about every three months. He also says he hasn’t looked at porn in several years, but I do know that he struggles with temptation to Look. He’s a christian and does not want to dabble in porn now.