I know that Satan is out there to try and tear us apart or hurt others. I wanted to ask because the mom and family are very active in the church and the mom talks about doing what God wants her to do. With all the peer pressure on kids today I hope that somehow this doesn’t cause her daughter to just get grounded but that it becomes an educational parent daughter talk with them after or if I let her know the following. Please let me know if you agree or not with me letting the mom know what’s been going on. I did tell her this morning to tell Kim I was thinking about her. I have tried to say hello to Kim in the past when she would pass me walking into a classroom for afterschool help but she ignored me and whenever I see her at church she walks away from me. Oh Kim’s brother has autism and did help our son in a class to keep him on task but I was never there to see it but the teachers told us that she kept him on track. I’m also hoping that because I told her mom to tell her I was thinking about Kim that she may have some guilt if she thinks she is doing something wrong trying to constantly matchmake our son with another girl who’s not allowed to talk to boys or date (which I can understand cause she’s only 13). I really want her to stop so she can realize she may be tempting others to do something they may not want to do and regret it later such as in high school. The other girl Alisha is considered a princess to her mother and her mom is old fashioned when it comes to boys. Please understand I’m not trying to get our son to date and I’m old fasioned myself and tell both our son and daughters that sex is for marriage.

Sorry this is long but I wanted to add details to avoid any possible question of confusion and let someone on the outside look at the whole picture. The problem started last year but is continuing this year. Our 15 yr. old son Mike has Asperger’s and is the 8th grade this year. He’s very intelligent, high functional, and usually does the right thing but because of Asperger’s he sometimes takes things literally even if it is a joke. Last school year he was allowed to spent some time with another girl at a bookstore to study, read books, and have a snack after both my husband and her parents said it was o.k. The girl moved to another state and is not at the school anymore.
Other kids were jealous about this and wanted to do what our son did but weren’t allowed to because a lot of girls are to young to date. (our son was held back two years in his school life).

Last year a girl named Kim told our son that Alisha likes him. Mike tried to talk with her to see if they could possibly get together to study. Apparently Alisha told Mike she hated him after he ask her if she wanted to study together. This year Kim keeps trying to get them together. At a dr’s appointment a month ago our son wanted permission from Alisha’s mom to talk to her because he was hurt because she said she hated him (yeah he carried that around all summer). Her mom told me she doesn’t allow Alisha to talk to boys on the phone and I respect that because her daughter is only 13. She said Mike could call her because she obviously had to apologize and think about what she said to hurt Mike. Alisha’s mom told me a lot of girls say so and so likes someone but we know Asperger’s can cause Mike to believe the opposite of what is true. Mike told us later that day that Kim keeps trying to get them together so we told Mike to not talk to Kim or Alisha anymore as it would keep him out of trouble. In addition my husband told me not to call to talk with Alisha’s mother about the situation and to just leave them alone but we did talk to the dean to make her aware of the situation in case it got worse. The dean believed that Kim is an angel and wouldn’t say or do anything like this. Basically the situation was thought to be done and the dean thought our son was lying about Kim doing this.

The problem continues and I feel it needs attention because Kim continues to try and get Mike and Alisha together like they did this weekend after all classmates were invited to another girls birthday (dancing) party. First Kim went and told Mike that he should dance with Alisha and he said no and walked away which makes me proud of him. Kim then went over and told Alisha she should dance with Mike and she just screamed. Our son did exactly as he should have done and got out of the situation by having a conversation with some parents at the party.

Because Kim keeps trying to get them together this puts our son and Alisha in an awkward position that may get either of them in trouble I wonder if I should tell Kim’s mom what’s been going on. Kim’s mom is a good friend of mine and both of us are active in the church/school but I’m not sure if saying something would be a good or bad idea. If I wasn’t good friends with her mom I may alert the dean again but I wonder if there’s a better way than to just tell the administration rather than spe
My last sentence should have said…If I wasn’t good friends with her mom I may alert the dean again but I wonder if there’s a better way than to just tell the administration rather than speaking up to my friend since I see her every week.

To the person that mentioned inbreeding I wonder if Kim will be sexually active sooner in life than others because she’s more into boys (obviously she thinks she can get away with this and may be avoiding me for a reason). When she’s in high school she may pressure other girls to do things they don’t want to.