I am a nineteen year old female and have been together with my boyfriend for about 2 and some years, with about a 8 month break because he moved for college. However, we are now back together and even though im extremely happy, and dont want to not be with him, he is starting to stress me out. I am a very busy person, and am highly friend- oriented, and am dealt with many priorities. Some of which had become higher since my boyfriend moved, and my life carried on here.
My Boyfriend comes from a well known family with respected values from our community. With his college degree he has a well paying job and is highly enthusiastic about working. However, when he isn’t working, all he wants to do is hang out with me. Which I love spending time with him, but when I say that all he wants to do is spend time with me; i’m not exaggerating. He’ll just wait around till im off work or out of school ( I am also currently a college student) even if we don’t have plans hoping that maybe ill be free to do something with him. If I tell him that I am studying that day or have alot of errands to run, i feel like he pressures me to hurry through so i can spend time with him. He has plenty of guy friends, but doesn’t ever hang out with them unless i have other plans first. We are a very active couple and enjoy our time at the gym, kickboxing, boarding, soccer and other sports, so its not like he just wants to hang out and cuddle all the time. He doesn’t care what we do, just as long as its together. Although we have quite a few friends in common, My best friend isn’t involved in our group, so i feel its even more difficult to make time for him.
I feel my boyfriend is so demanding that i find if hard to make time for school, studying, work, gym, friends and well just time for myself every once in awhile.
When i talk to him about it, he accepts what i have to say, but usually doesnt agree with it. I’m not sure if this is an obsessive trait and i should be worried? Or does he just really honestly care about me? and if he just cares about me how do i make more time for myself and other priorties without feeling guilty?