Okay. So, my boyfriend is very sweet. However, he is very controlling. If I’m hanging out with my friends, and he’s there, he expects me to leave my friends and spend the entire time with him. Thus, all of my friends dislike him, a lot.
And he’s always guilt tripping me into doing things for him, like oral, or letting him finger me. He’s even had sex with me after I told him multiple times that I was waiting for marriage. I had to push him to make him stop.
He’s always trying to make out with me, in public, and I feel so rude and disrespectful to other people. I understand a sweet kiss, or holding hands, but he wants to have a full blown make-out session everywhere we go. I’m so embarrassed. Like, once, we were outside his house, and his parents were due home any minute, and I told him that I don’t feel comfortable making out with him there, and he continued anyway. We ended up getting caught by his step mother, his elderly neighbor, and his younger siblings. I was mortified.
He always has to have his hands on my waist, or his arms around me. He’s always touching me, even when I don’t want to be touched. He wants to finger me, and me to jack him off in a public pool. He texts me all the time, and if I sleep in and don’t reply, or I’m busy cleaning, and I don’t check my messages, he comes knocking on my door, asking me why I’m not answering, or he calls me and asks what I’m doing.
He has this whole plan where I’m going to go to college with him, and we’re going to get married right out of high school, and he wants to have children with me.
And the worst part, is that we’ve only been together a little over two months.
I like him a lot. In fact, I might even love him. But I don’t know enough about love, or enough about relationships and life to honestly say that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I was once in a relationship for a year and a half, and the most we did was kiss, and he only wanted to take me to prom. I feel so rushed and so pressured, but I don’t want to break up with him because he’s a good guy and I would really hurt him. I still like him a lot, and I’m not leading him on or anything. I just don’t know what to do in this situation. HELP!?
Also, he once told me that I’m fat and ugly and the only reason he was with me was sex. And the reason that he is with me is because he wants sex and that he hates it when I talk cause it annoys him.
But right after, he apologized and said that he was kidding and he didn’t mean it.
When I’m making him mad, he grabs my wrists and he squeezes them really hard. He pulls my hair when he’s mad, and he grabs my face and makes me look him in the eyes when he’s talking to me. He twists my arms when I am not doing something he approves of. I don’t know if that’s abusive or not, but he always apologizes…
Thanks to anyone and everyone who answers.