I’ve finally met my soul mate or have I? If you’ve got nothing better to do You be the judge?
She is playful and lets her inner child shine through. She’s witty and draws me in with her words and quick thinking. She is so charming and can get on my good side in a heartbeat. She’s somewhat old fashioned when it comes to dating and wants to take things slow and She’s a little reclusive and plays hard to get. She likes to hold my hand but not really a touchy feely type of girl. And She said she even feels really comfortable with me even on the meeting me date she said she felt so comfortable she even kissed me yet she swore she doesn’t hardly ever do that, it seems so perfect and we both have hit it off like we might be soul mates. We hold hand everywhere we go.

The trouble is, she also sends mixed signals and leaves me wondering if she is truely interested in me or not, so she’s sort of vague sometimes in her answers with me and wont come right out and say it so she seems a little elusive and seems difficult to pin down. I dont know if she likes me or not. Sometimes if I tell her shes pretty she changes the subject. Its like she wants to keep things very pure or something. Yet we can talk about s ex if its in a fun way or joking casual clean way.

We talk for hours on the phone and enjoy each other for hours, but I still dont know for sure what is going on? Am I MORE of a friend or boyfriend?

We mirror each other a lot too like If I start singing she will finish the lyrics. I told her I wrote a song and it had a girls name in it (its just a song nothing more the name sorta fit si used it) so she says she wrote a song too and it had a guys name in it. And starts singing it But I got a little jealous and asked who’s he?
But shes the sort of person who takes cues from me and then responds in kind, I asked her today if she liked me as a friend or more like a boyfriend? she said there are things about me that she really likes, but things that she doesnt like. She said she thinks I am an attractive guy but wont come right out and tell me unless pressures to answer, she wont say things like I really dig you like crazy or I really like you and I sort of need to hear her say how much she likes me so I can get a better idea of where we stand. I need to know if she likes me but like I said she is a little old fashioned and plays hard to get, sometimes it seems she just isnt that interested in me too like she can take it or leave it sometimes. I cant figure her out? its really bothering me too. Why is it so difficult with her to get her to say she likes me and feels the same.
Why does she keep talking with me for hours, We seem like we are girlfriend and boyfriend sometimes and if there is a guy who likes her she will tell me and if a guy friend comes over she tells me, but I dont know where the heck this relationship is going? Any clues?
I would like to thank everyone so far for answering , this is really helping me. Thank you for your straight up honesty.

I don’t understand why people put so much pressure on parents to name their baby with either a girl name or boy name. I don’t really like to think their is a limit on naming a baby but to some extent there is. I would not name a girl Jacob nor would I name a boy Catherine. But there are some exceptions like my name I chose for my future baby girl, Rylie Paige. Some people believe that Rylie is more masculine than feminine. I agree, though only a little, but the fact is that I like that name, a lot! Here is another thing, my brother has always told me, there is no such thing as a gender color. If I asked the difference between Pink and Blue, most of you would answer, pink is for girls and blue is for boys. Even in a hospital, they put girls in pink blankets and boys in blue. But why does there have to be so many boundaries for just deciding a name for your baby? Everyone has the right to name their baby what they want! Our minds and choices are what makes us all different! Although many of you will post rude comments about this topic, I am just trying to reach out to the moms-to-be and let them know that it is their choice and their right and that is alright to name their baby what they want. Not everyone is a tomboy nor a prep but you never no what your future baby might turn out to be. Just because you’re a prep doesn’t mean your baby will be!

I am a tomboy, I was the only girl I knew that HATED: shopping, dresses, high heels, make overs, expensive hair styling, nail polish, girl talk, chatting on the phone with your girlfriends, boy chasing (proudly married), watching romance movies, going on dates (me and my husband stayed home or went drinking with friends), and there is a lot more that I don’t have time to explain.

I enjoy camping, swimming, fighting, fishing, drinking games (such as: beer pong, waterfall, F the dealer), chillin with friends, playing pool, cleaning, cooking, I work 36-40 hours a week as a pharmacy technician, sleeping, four-wheeler riding, tree climbing, I would like to try sky diving, scubadiving.

I want to be a mom one day, but only when I am ready. Please comment on the subject before I got into my detail life… The only thing I see wrong with my dialog, is that I am comparing tomboys to preps. I don’t mean any harm because like I said, I am the only girl I know that does not do anything like any other girl, whom are which my friends. I’m not lonely and they always threaten me that they will take me clothes shopping. I will not go willing! ;P
Also, I am not over reacting, if I were everything would be in CAPS LIKE THIS AND THEN THE COMPUTER THING WOULD TELL ME THAT I AM IMPYLING THAT I AM MAD. I am just trying to get a point through and give enough reason behind my topic, didn’t anyone ever study english? LOL! Joking but seriously, I just deep and intellectual answers. Not like You’re stupid wrong. That is not cool…
Thank you all, so far, for the non-rude comments, rates all!

Well, the office called us and said that someone canceled their appointment, so I could come in a week early. My mom had a job interview at the same time as my appointment, so she checked me in and then left me in the waiting room. I waited for like 45 minutes. Then the nurse finally called me back. She took me into an office, and told me to sit down and wait for the doctor. Like 5 minutes later her and a doctor came into the room. The doctor started to ask me questions, like Are you sexually active?Are your periods regular? and stuff like that. I told him that I’m a virgin and I was there because my pediatrician told me I should go, because my periods were regular but then I had a 10 day long period, and I also had pelvic pain. The doctor said I could go on birth control to regulate my periods, and he would see about the pelvic pain. Then the nurse took me into an examination room and had me put on a robe. She took me into a bathroom and had me pee in a cup, and then she took my height, weight, temperature, and blood pressure. She looked in my eyes, ears, nose, and throat. Then she left and said the doctor should be in there in a few minutes, and for me to lie down on the table and cover up with the sheet. The doctor and nurse came back in about 20 minutes. The doctor listened to my heart, and felt my neck. Then he opened the robe and felt my stomach. He told me to sit up, and said he was going to do a breast exam. He felt around my breasts, and then had me lie back down and felt them more. Then the nurse had me scoot up to the edge of the table and she put my feet into these metal things. Then the doctor sat at the foot of the table, and the nurse held my legs open. The doctor started out by feeling the top of my pelvis, (like where all the hair is), and then started to feel and look at the outside of my vagina. Then he put something cold all around the outside, and put his finger up there and put more on the inside. He just felt around for about 30 sec. after that. Then he put like two of his fingers up inside my vagina and pushed on the top of my pelvis. It hurt really bad, and it took him like two minutes to get them in there, because I was like crying it hurt so bad. Then after that he took this cold metal thing, and tried to put it up there, but it hurt so bad, I made him stop. He left the room to find a different one. The nurse asked me if I would be okay, and I said that it hurt really bad. She said it’ll be over soon. So, I had to lay there for like 5 more min. until the doctor came back. He tried putting a different metal thing in there again, but it still hurt. He told me to relax, and that it would only take a second if I just let him do it. So, it hurt really bad, and I bled a little, but he got it in there. Then he took a cotton swab thing and put it inside, and then another thing. He finally took out the metal thing. Then he put his finger up my butt, that hurt pretty bad too. He said he needed to do the bi manual exam over again, because he thought he felt something wrong. So he stuck his hand up there again, and he said I was fine. Then he left and the nurse helped me get up. She gave me a wipe and said to go to the bathroom and clean up, and then get dressed. I did that, and then the doctor talked to my mom for a little bit and said I need to come back in next week, and get further testing.

Sorry you had to read that long description, but I really want to know why I need further testing, because I do not like getting tested, it hurts!

I don’t know what’s happening, but the only way I can explain what is happening to me by claiming its a…. thirst for knowledge. I’m a 16 year old boy, in high school, and this year has been especially strange for me. This is the issue: there are moments, throughout the entire day and night, where I come up with random ideas and have to fulfill them by going to wikipedia or just online and researching completely ridiculous things. Just now while I was vacationing in Mexico, I was thinking of random words, how to translate them, how to properly use verbs and utilize them correctly, subjunctive theories, translating to french, logic, and completely ridiculous things. My short term memory is suffering extraordinarily with this ridiculous amount of dumb ideas in my head. I literally carried a pad and a pen and wrote everything down. On top of that, I CONSTANTLY forget what I want to say, what I want to do, and I have become so tired and grumpy and not me from all of this. I always have a headache and I feel really consumed all the time, I have no break at all, day nor night. I haven’t had a moment of calmness and a moment with a clean head. Even when I finish something, I still have to look up Michael Jackson’s birth date and the capital of Zimbabwe. It’s absolutely ridiculous. I don’t know what to do. Do I need ritalin? Aderol? ADD meds? is this more than ADD? OMG just now i had a thought to write in and i forgot what i wanted to say. This is scary. It’s like Alzheimer’s disease. I have nonexistent short term memory, and I was always the one with the best memory!! And after i forget something i get really stressed out and angry, and my blood pressure literally rises. THIS IS RIDICULOUS. HELP ME. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING WITH ME. I CANT FOCUS OR CONCENTRATE ON ANYTHING EVER. MY NIGHTS ARE FILLED WITH DUMB IDEAS INSTEAD OF PLEASANT DREAMS. I WAKE UP GRINDING MY TEETH AND THINKING ABOUT IRREGULAR VERB CONJUGATIONS. I AM GOING INSANE!!!!!! PLEASE BE AS DETAILED AS POSSIBLE.

thank you very much.
also I constantly have this can’t live up to my potential feeling. Even my school work suffered this year from my being so ridiculous and unable being to focus… do i need to fulfill my knowledge cravings? is the computer hurting me? do need medicine? why is this happening?!

do I have ADD? do i need medicine? what is wrong with me!!!?
I don’t know what’s happening, but the only way I can explain what is happening to me by claiming its a…. thirst for knowledge. I’m a 16 year old boy, in high school, and this year has been especially strange for me. This is the issue: there are moments, throughout the entire day and night, where I come up with random ideas and have to fulfill them by going to wikipedia or just online and researching completely ridiculous things. Just now while I was vacationing in Mexico, I was thinking of random words, how to translate them, how to properly use verbs and utilize them correctly, subjunctive theories, translating to french, logic, and completely ridiculous things. My short term memory is suffering extraordinarily with this ridiculous amount of dumb ideas in my head. I literally carried a pad and a pen and wrote everything down. On top of that, I CONSTANTLY forget what I want to say, what I want to do, and I have become so tired and grumpy and not me from all of this. I always have a headache and I feel really consumed all the time, I have no break at all, day nor night. I haven’t had a moment of calmness and a moment with a clean head. Even when I finish something, I still have to look up Michael Jackson’s birth date and the capital of Zimbabwe. It’s absolutely ridiculous. I don’t know what to do. Do I need ritalin? Aderol? ADD meds? is this more than ADD? OMG just now i had a thought to write in and i forgot what i wanted to say. This is scary. It’s like Alzheimer’s disease. I have nonexistent short term memory, and I was always the one with the best memory!! And after i forget something i get really stressed out and angry, and my blood pressure literally rises. THIS IS RIDICULOUS. HELP ME. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING WITH ME. I CANT FOCUS OR CONCENTRATE ON ANYTHING EVER. MY NIGHTS ARE FILLED WITH DUMB IDEAS INSTEAD OF PLEASANT DREAMS. I WAKE UP GRINDING MY TEETH AND THINKING ABOUT IRREGULAR VERB CONJUGATIONS. I AM GOING INSANE!!!!!! PLEASE BE AS DETAILED AS POSSIBLE. Even my school work suffered this year from my being so ridiculous and unable being to focus… do i need to fulfill my knowledge cravings? is the computer hurting me? do need medicine? why is this happening?!

thank you very much.

I have a situation I would like some opinions on:

Yesterday the regulator for our water broke in the apartment building I own (along with my husband and my mother). We were unable to get a plumber in when it broke yesterday bc of a storm we were having (tornadoes, hail, etc). 7am this morning (sunday) our plumber came and fixed the water. he could not get the right kind of regulator so he ordered one and will have it on Wed. We do have water to the building and everything is fine. It is a little higher pressure but at least it all works.

Now, everytime we have a problem I have a tenant who then has 10 million problems (which we never find to exist. but when we do find a real problem they claim it isn’t a problem and try to find reasons why it shouldn’t be fixed).

Tonight I showered at 8:30. The tenants (the ones that complain) bathroom is next to mine we r also on the same hot water. I heard them running hot water and I noticed my pressure was a little weaker so I assumed they were just showering. My water was fine in all aspects nothing out of the ordinary.

At 9:30 my mother went into my bathroom (she was visiting) and said about all the water the tenants next door (the ones who complain) were running. 15 mins later the man was beating on my door pissed bc he says he showered in cold water. I told him I didn’t understand why bc the water has been fixed all day and there wasn’t a problem. He got a little ignorant and started about how SOMEONE else in the building would have to be on the same water heater as his unit. I told him I was and my water was fine. It was even hot when my mother washed her hands at 9:30 when she was in the bathroom.

When the tenant left I checked my water it was not hot but it was warm. It is continually warming up. It seems like the tank was drained or something. These people irritate me. They r quiet and pay the last day of every month (their rent is due the first) so in that aspect I hate to get rid of them. But at the same time they drive me crazy!!!!!

Today, my cat was outside and they dumped beer on it. They are just ignorant and I am ready to get rid of them I can’t take anymore. He also informed me that my mother (who lives in a unit above me) had her dog tied out back and it was jumping all over the one car and was scraping it. He didn’t know my mother was here. We went to check her dog and he was laying in the back yard no where near the cars he couldn’t even reach the cars! Am I over reacting? (I could add more stories about these annoying people but this is long enough)

is it too much to ask for tenants who pay, clean, and don’t lie?! (I want to be sure that I am not just treating them unfair bc I do not like them. They were here when we bought the building in Oct. 08′. I didn’t like them from the first time I meant them)
It isn’t the complaining that bothers me. I understand it. I use to rent and I was a pain in the a*s I know it. But these ppl complain about nothing. They say theres a leak so we call a plumber pay emergency fees travel fees and the hourly rate to check and there is no leak!
Then we found a leak and they argued with us giving us millions of reasons why we shouldn’t fix it.

There was an incident w/ the floor. The one tenant had a loose shower wall never told us and has been leaking water on to the floor. We replaced the floors so the other tenants wanted their bathroom floor (all of it replaced bc they said it was rotting) we had a contractor check it was fine. However, we wanted to lay hardwood (like all the other apts) and they had a fit.
I do have a lease w/ them. There is a clause in there about abusing children and animals. I am unsure atm how it is specifically stated but basically they r to let both alone.

I have warned them and showed them the clause it violated. However, I can not prove they did it. My cat got out. I heard it fighting w/ another cat. When I opened the door to get him He came running from the area of the tenants front door (we share a porch) when I picked him up he was wet and smelled of stale beer. WHen I went back out I saw where the beer can was laying under their window. I have found these cans on their side of the building I assumed it was the teenage kids (they r always throwing stuff at their door and windows bc they r complete d*cks to everyone)

A little background: My fiance and I are in our early thirties, healthy, fit, with a 3 year old son. The past year was difficult due to a number of reasons (school, work, etc.) but the cracks in our relationship had started to show before that. Sex had hit about once a month since our son was born and in the last year it’s even gone as far as once every 5 weeks. I’d hear every manner of excuse such as: too tired, tired of dealing with your insecurities in bed, you’re making sex the bottomline and pressuring me. All that. The fact is though she was never too tired to go out with friends or go dancing or whatever. Also I cooked, I cleaned, I did the food shopping, I transported our son to and fro, and I was doing a MA program and working an internship, plus being a father. I still wanted sex. I wasn’t tired even with all that. The insecurities…to be fair, were there. They stemmed from the lack of sex though. A: the infrequency meant I was in perpetual one-minute man mode and I didn’t want to be, particularly when sex came once a month, i wanted to enjoy it. So I’d go into a pity party after sex which I admit is a turn-off. But, B: The lack of sex also made me insecure because it seemed so much like it was an excuse that made me wonder well what the hell is wrong with me/us? The resentment and fighting had kept increasing and the last week of June my wife announced she was moving out because she didn’t want our son exposed to arguments anymore. I agreed it was bad for him. I figured we would resolve things like we always have.

Ok that’s part I of the story. Part II involves a discovery I made in the middle of this latest war that sent things over the edge. All the pieces came together for me one day and it literally has left me in pieces. I had found some poetry my fiance wrote back in late April that seemed to imply she was dreaming about another man and how conflicted she felt by that, upset even by the language of the poem. I had bluffed her back then and said You were talking in your sleep last night and I thought I heard a name. She seemed a bit bothered but I moved on and didn’t think much of it. Dreams are dreams after all.

I hate to admit it but during this latest fight I was in her email. We’ve both been guilty of snooping at different points in the relationship, though I’ve NEVER given any reason to be suspicious. In an email I found her discussing our problems with a girlfriend and then saying in other news…I texted SO AND SO (NOT ME) and he called me back and said i was heavy on his mind. he asked me about the apartment, we talked about (OUR 3 year old) and DAMNIT WAS I NOT LICKIN THE PHONE, I WANTED TO EAT HIM ALIVE! IT SUCKS BIG TIME. he wanted to talk again but our schedules/lives don’t work like that so I said good night CLICK. i love hanging up on him. leave him hanging. he likes it too, we’re sick. The man she’s speaking of is an ex. Turns out the dreams were of him back on April 29th. I began tracking phone bills and saw a bunch of texts and phone calls between them from April 29 to the present when I discovered the phone relationship they were having. Turns out, according to my fiance what happened was after 5 years of not even thinking about the man she suddenly started having dreams about him and felt the need to call him to make sure there was no bad blood there. are you kidding me? i’ve dreamt about exes and never felt the need to call them because i know i’m committed to somebody. There were some lulls in the records (we went on a great family vacation that feels like a slap in the face now), but what caught my eye was two things. First, the morning I told her about her talking in her sleep this is what the phone records show. 2 texts…one at 6:15 am and the other at 6:52 am (can’t tell if they are incoming or outgoing unfortunately), and two calls…one at 7:15 from her, one at 7:30 am him returning the call. This was supposed to be the first time they spoke in 5 years, that comfortable to call at that time? I’m having a hard time accepting that. Not to mention that my wife tried to deny the texts at first and then said oh that’s just me telling him to call me about the dreams. Second that first conversation lasted about 35 minutes. There was another call after she had decided she was moving out that lasted 47 minutes. Supposedly she’s saying they were just talking about life etc.

She says she hasn’t had anything physical with him but nothing is adding up right now and the fact that she’s telling me she loves me and wanted to grow old with me and fix things is driving me crazy. I’m going to counseling myself for it, our son is suffering, we are considering couples counseling but I just don’t feel like I can trust her ever again and I really love this woman and she loves me too according to her. Anyone have advice? I’ve never been this low.
sorry, i’ve always felt like we were already married and often referred to her as my wife , but we are not.
I should mention too that she keeps shifting the blame away from her and wants to make it about how we were a failing relationship already because of ME, as if the problems that existed before weren’t 50/50. she wants me to take the blame and she is just denying that there was anything to this issue with the ex and it’s just me blowing things out of proportion. That there was no interest in sex there and it was never going to happen because she was with me. They were just talking. Seems like a compulsive liar.
It was all behind my back why hide it?

I haven’t been to the dentist in a while. (No insurance but I have insurance now so I’m getting it taken care of) So I finally make an appointment since my left lower wisdom tooth was giving me some trouble. I get there and they tell me I need a deep cleaning because a regular cleaning wouldn’t do anything for me. Fine, insurance covers that (although they tried to jerk me out of 200 bucks for it) Then she tells me I need the wisdom tooth out which I knew already. And she also said I have cavities on the sides of 4 teeth (from tartar and lack of flossing)

Now the dental assistant did all of this. My x-rays, deep cleaning, talked to me about the cavities/discoloration, flossing all of that. I thought she was the dentist!!! Then the dentist walks in this drop dead gorgeous woman with no dr. coat, surgical mask or anything. She sat down and repeated everything the dental assistant told me and proceeded to tell me that she realizes now (after pressuring the dental assistant to pressure me for 200 bucks) that I am fully covered for my procedure today. Then she say that tooth has to come out…oops they should all really come out I said they should she simply said yes… no explanantion no nothing. And walked out. When the dental assistant started to clean my teeth I saw the dentist grab her hand bag and haul ass out of there laughing on her cell phone Those teeth don’t even bother me. They are just sitting there and are actually healthier than a few of the others with trouble tartar (according to the dental assistant) Smoke signals immediately went off and I wondered what else she could be lying to me about. Listening to these people I have to go back 3 more times 1. to get the other half of my deep cleaing 2. to the tooth/teeth pulled 3. to fill my cavities (and take out a filling that i had before that is fine but rumor has it she only uses white fillings so that might be why she wants that one out)

I feel like this is too many trips. They keep telling me I need the extraction before the filling. Why? I would go to another dentist but then they’d have to do x-rays and stuff all over again and that would max out my insurance. What to do what to do? Should I just stick it out with this woman?
Oh one other thing…when she looked at my hurting tooth she was likeoh my goodness honey how are you not screaming in pain. I would be screaminig in pain like she’s never seen a dental problem before. Something is fishy…and Mar C I can do without all the smarty pants attitude. I asked the question for a reason, if you don’t have ananswer that’s fine but no need to be an ass. I’m happy you earned your 2 points!

I have a HP Deskjet 4100 series printer at home. I rarely require to print. So I sparingly use printer. I have hardly printed a few pages (less than 20 pages or so) since I bought it in Jan 2008. The last time I used my printer was in April 2009 to make a copy of 15H form (because my printer can scan and copy without switching on PC I use it mainly as a Photocopy machine and of course sometimes I require it to print some documents or web pages). But on July 11, 2009 (Precisely 3 months of not using the printer) when I went to make a copy (photocopy) of a page I got a rude shock when a blank page came out (although the printer behaved as though it was printing something on that page. But nothing got printed). After I checked the manual of my HP Printer it said that Ink of printer can dry if printer is not used for some period of time. So I feel that since I rarely use printer there is a chance that there may be ink in Catridge 21 (black cartridge) of my printer but it may not be printing it because nozzle opening may be blocking the ink from coming out. The manual states that I can either clean the nozzle opening with a wet cloth (which has been made wet by using distilled water since tap water can be contaminated). And if this doesn’t work then I have to replace the cartridge with a new one.

Now, I have following questions regarding my HP Inkjet Printer?

Question #1: Where exactly should I clean the cartridge with distilled water in order to clean the nozzle opening which might have got blocked by dried ink?

Question #2: How can I get distilled water in home (as far as I know there is only one way to get it and that is, I can open my pressure cooker and collect the water droplets formed on the inside of the lid of the pressure cooker and wipe a clean cotton cloth on it and make it wet and then rub that wet cotton cloth on the nozzle opening. Will this help? Instead of Distilled water can I use a floppy drive disk cleaning liquid (I have spare liquid remaining of the time when we used to clean floppy disk drives (in yesteryears) using floppy disks made for cleaning purpose by putting this liquid on them). The reason why I am asking you this is because this liquid evaporates and so it is often used to remove the moisture trapped in RAM chip holder (slot) of a PC. I actually saw a hardware professional removing my Pc’s RAM chip once and asking me for floppy drive cleaning liquid and putting it in the slot of RAM and then replacing the same RAM chip again in that slot and later when my PC started working properly he told me that some moisture had got trapped in the RAM slot and that putting that disk cleaner liquid in that slot and replacing that RAM chip in that slot resulted in moisture being replaced by the disk cleaning liquid and till the RAM chip was replaced that disk cleaning liquid also got evaporated at room temperature. And so I learnt that hardware engineers often use floppy disk cleaning liquids to clean up hardware stuff. So can I use such a disk cleaning liquid to clean the nozzle of printer cartridge (because it can clean and then evaporate)?

Question # 3: What is the cost of HP Original Cartridge 21 in India (in Mumbai)? (In case, I have no other option left but to throw existing cartridge which dried up without being used much).

Question # 4: What is the capacity of a HP Original Cartridge 21 (that is, how many A4 Pages does it print?)

Question # 5: If I rarely require to print documents how can I prevent drying up of ink that happens because of rare use of printer? Because if a cartridge say prints say 500 pages and I barely print 20 pages in an year (because I sparingly use printer) and my ink dries up and so I have to throw the cartridge because of that then I am at a huge loss (e.g. 500 Pages (Capacity of Cartridge) - 20 Pages (Per year that I require to print in an year)= 480 Pages of Catridge Capacity being lost). Again, just because printer ink dries up after a certain period of time it doesn’t make sense to keep printing pages (480 pages) without requiring to print such pages (because that would cause loss of valuable paper. So even environmentally it is not good).

Question # 6: What is the period of time in which ink starts drying up (if printer remains inactive in that period)? For example, Ink may be getting dried up if printer is not used for a month or so. Basically, I wish to know that period so that I can at least print a few lines in that period (for no good reason but just to prevent the ink from drying up). That’s why I wish to know the period of time for which I must not keep the printer inactive and thus preventing drying up of ink. So basically, suppose printer ink starts drying up in one month of not use then I can print an A4 Page at the end of the month (although I may not be having the requirement to print it but I will be using the printer just to prevent the printer catridge nozzle from being blocked up due to ink drying). So that will anyways
waste 12 pages an year but at least I won’t be required to throw away a cartridge (with a 480 pages of print capacity remaining) just because ink got dried up.

Question # 7: If you are a home maker or home user or Small Home Office User and have suffered the same plight of drying up of ink due to rare use of printer please tell me how did you overcome this problem?

Thanks Regards,

Anita Mallya.

I’m 42 and he’s 39. We’ve been separated for 3 years, married a total of 7 years. Our marriage fell apart because of verbal and eventually physical abuse. At first, I would cry and be upset, then I got fed up and retaliated. So we’re both at fault there. Finally I left.

We have two children, 6 and 4 years and I have a 13 year old son from a previous marriage. Over the last 3 years of separation, we’ve both come a long way, but a HUGE issue between the two of us is my older son. My husband has a big problem with my older son’s father. My oldest son lives with his father and is with me on weekends for the most part. My oldest’s father is very inconsiderate and changes plans constantly, makes plans on my weekends with my son without asking and is always late, that kind of thing. He’s very well off and my oldest son likes being with his dad and step brothers (who are his age) so I hesitate to make him come with me when I know he’ll have more fun with his dad. Usually I try to go with the flow and do what I feel is best for my oldest son. Other times, I don’t and when I feel his dad is taking advantage of me, I do put my foot down. But my husband thinks I should put my foot down EVERY time but I don’t feel like fighting every battle.

I am much more easy going than my husband. I usually look at things with a positive attitude and make the best of whatever life throws my way. But my husband is very rigid about some things and my son’s father’s behavior (and my willingness to give in) causes major arguments between my husband and I. And my husband fights vindictively, calling me vile names and hurting me over things he knows are VERY upsetting to me. My husband feels I should put our children and family as the priority. In a sense, I agree, but my oldest son is still my child and in my mind ALL the kids should come first. This is one of several issues we have.

MY biggest issue aside from the friction with my oldest son is my husband is a complete slob. I try to clean and organize but he gets VERY upset if I touch his things or anything that he has put somewhere specific (for example, our bills go in a big plastic bag and once a month he dumps it out to pay them - when I try to organize them in a file, he FREAKS saying now he can’t find anything). Nothing is really organized and there’s a ton of clutter in our home.

One very big bone of contention between us is his dog. When we got married, he had two big dogs that he didn’t take care of and they were always dirty and smelled and basically we had to recarpet the whole house. Whenever we fought, he babied the dogs to get to me then talked to me like dirt. Finally, they had to be put down because of health problems and I was like, thank GOD! (I am NOT a dog person). During our separation, he got a huge Doberman. Before he got it, I told him another dog was a deal breaker with me and if he got the dog, no reconcillation. Well, he got the dog anyway and after a lot of promises, I gave him the benefit of the doubt (he said he would take care of her properly). Well, he hasn’t been. I stayed at our house (I live in a rental currently) last weekend, and the house was a mess, the dog was dirty and stunk and the back yard was full of dog poop (he won’t walk her, just opens the back door and lets her use the back yard as a toilet). I love him, and when I try to talk to him about the dog, he says I’m jealous and that’s why I don’t want the dog.

He is pressuring me to move back home but I am hesitant. I think he’s going through a major depression (he’s been unemployed for a year and his bills are really a mess). Whenever I’ve tried to just make a clean break, I can’t do it. I picture him with someone else and I just can’t handle it. I love my home that I’ve made (we live in the same town) in my rental and I hate to give it up. But I know that I’ll be a complete mess if he moves on to another woman.

I only have about 3 weeks to make up my mind (my lease is up for renewal). I’m overweight and don’t feel very attractive and I think part of my hesitation in giving him up is my low self esteem. I also have no family and am deathly afraid of being alone forever with no one to take care of me (I am living paycheck to paycheck). Don’t get me wrong, I do love my husband but I’m not sure I can live with all the issues we have.

I am by no means without fault and I realize that. My oldest son and husband have always gotten along fine, so I’m not concerned about that if we move back in together and my two youngest (our kids) want us back together badly. My husband has no patience and I don’t want to be the one always trying to keep the peace. But I don’t want my kids to blame me for not making my marriage work either.

Any insight, advice or observations that are not insults would be very much appreciated.